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Persecuted for being gay



The voices of people from around the world
who have found themselves stigmatised for their sexuality

 


Ali, from Sudan



Along with 11 of his friends, Ali was detained when agents from the Sudanese intelligence agency raided a private party. They were put in solitary confinement in cells measuring 1.5 sqm. Ali was deprived of water and food for two days. Of the 11 friends Ali mentioned, eight were later flogged with 100 lashes each, while the fate of another three members, including his boyfriend, remains unknown.



They stripped me naked and they started to interrogate me. They asked me about everything: whether I was gay, about my friends, family, my politics and my LGBT association activities.

One of them put a pistol to my head and said: "I wish I could kill you right now." They dragged me by my legs and they tied me upside down, and they started hitting me with a metal stick all over my body; they grabbed my penis and hit me there too. They used the metal stick to rape me, and they were laughing out loud, asking: "Do you like it, do you want more?" I was screaming with pain and bleeding from everywhere. They kept doing it until I lost consciousness.

I remained there for almost four weeks and spent another three and a half months in prison. I was waiting for my trial, expecting to be sentenced to death. Then some family members succeeded in smuggling me out of prison and I fled the country with a fake passport.





Tarik, from Tunisia



Five years ago, before I left Tunisia, I not only heard homophobic remarks, I also made them myself. I used to belong to an extremist religious group and I was taught that homosexuals should be killed by throwing them from a high place. I was taught that being gay is because of the devil we have inside. I liked men and hated myself.

The main reason I don't want to go back to Tunisia is that I don't want to lose myself – I am afraid of the "old" me; I like the "new" me. Being gay in Tunisia can lead to prison. The authorities regularly issue propaganda in order to manipulate or satisfy public opinion, so people are relieved when a gay group is arrested and feel the police are doing good job.

In rich places, gay people can survive, but in other quarters gays have two options: they can get married, say prayers, be good Muslims; or they can become prostitutes, abused by frustrated bisexual men and treated with contempt and hate. They are threatened by STDs and are in a very bad financial situation.

The anti-gay laws in Tunisia are also used in revenge. One can, at any moment, accuse his enemy of practising sodomy, even if it is false.



Tarik blogs at gay-ana.blogspot.com





A gay man from Karachi, Pakistan, who asked to remain anonymous



When it comes to being homosexual, there are two Pakistans. The first concerns the majority of the country, people who are relatively poorly educated with little money and no access to the internet. For them it's very difficult; there isn't even a consciousness about what it means to be gay. That said, it's not a situation where people are being caught and found hanging from lampposts.

I came from the other Pakistan – a more privileged urban community that is connected to what's going on in the rest of the world, through fashion and movies and culture. I have a normal social life like everybody else, it's simply not an issue. But it's all very discreet and under the radar.

We have draconian laws that outlaw homosexual activity, and a slew of political parties that recently made statements showing they are unwilling to accept gay people. Fighting for gay rights would be counter-productive here – it's a fight we would be guaranteed to lose. In India, they used HIV as a platform to get the community together. In Pakistan, that would be a recipe for disaster, leading to terrible recriminations.

Despite our laws against homosexuality, which go back to the British colonial era, prosecutions are rare.

For most people it's a problem of space. We have an extended family system here that affords very little privacy. People live in close proximity to their close relatives for many years. The internet has created an immense amount of space for people to meet one another, through dating sites and so on. Some people have no compunction about showing their faces or revealing their identity, which shows that there's a young, urban educated class that couldn't give a damn.

The 80-plus states that criminalise homosexuality today





The 80-plus states that criminalise homosexuality today



If you want to understand how half the countries that still criminalise homosexuality came to do so, look no further than the British Empire. The list of 84 jurisdictions across the world, compiled by the newly formed Human Dignity Trust (HDT), includes 42 Commonwealth countries, or 80 per cent of the Commonwealth community.



Almost all imported British laws in place in the late nineteenth century that, at that time, outlawed homosexual acts. It took until the 1967 Sexual Offences Act before England and Wales repealed its own legislation and until the 1980s before Scotland and Northern Ireland did the same. But those laws originally imposed during colonial times remain largely in place elsewhere, even in a post-independence era.



In five countries around the world, same sex sexual conduct carries the death penalty while across the Commonwealth penalities for homosexuality include a 20-year jail sentence plus flogging. According to the HDT, half a dozen Commonwealth countries specify life imprisonment.


List of countries/regions criminalising homosexuality

Africa
1. Algeria
2. Angola
3. Botswana
4. Burundi
5. Cameroon
6. Comoros
7. Egypt
8. Eritrea
9. Ethiopia
10. Gambia
11. Ghana
12. Guinea
13. Kenya
14. Lesotho
15. Liberia
16. Libya
17. Malawi
18. Mauritania
19. Mauritius
20. Morocco
21. Mozambique
22. Namibia
23. Nigeria São Tomé and Principe
24. North Sudan
25. Senegal
26. Seychelles
27. Sierra Leone
28. Somalia
29. South Sudan
30. Swaziland
31. Tanzania
32. Togo
33. Tunisia
34. Uganda
35. Zambia
36. Zimbabwe

Asia
1. Afghanistan
2. Bangladesh
3. Bahrain
4. Bhutan
5. Brunei
6. some parts of Indonesia (South Sumatra and Aceh Province)
7. Iran
8. Iraq
9. The State of Jammu and Kashmir in India
10. Kuwait
11. Lebanon
12. Malaysia
13. Maldives
14. Myanmar
15. Oman
16. Pakistan
17. Qatar
18. Saudi Arabia
19. Singapore
20. Sri Lanka
21. Syria
22. Turkish Republic of Northern Cyprus (internationally unrecognised)
23. Turkmenistan
24. United Arab Emirates
25. Uzbekistan
26. Yemen
27. Occupied Palestinian Territory

Latin America & Caribbean
1. Antigua and Barbuda
2. Barbados
3. Belize
4. Dominica
5. Grenada
6. Guyana
7. Jamaica
8. St Kitts & Nevis
9. St Lucia
10. St Vincent & the Grenadines
11. Trinidad and Tobago

Oceania
1. Kiribati
2. Nauru
3. Palau
4. Papua New Guinea
5. Samoa
6. Solomon Islands
7. Tonga
8. Tuvalu
9. the New Zealand associate of Cook Islands

Source: The New Statesman, November 17, 2011

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Have you ever found being gay difficult?

Have you ever found being gay difficult?




Great question and I think that it's a topic that should really be explored. There really is so much to this answer that I think I should take some time to respond to it properly.

The simple truth is that I do think being Gay is difficult, but no more than being part of any minority is difficult. Just like being Human is difficult.

Yes, I am discriminated against by my government and by organizations in my community but that is because bullies and cowards oppress others to make them feel better about who they are, and to elevate their own position. My sexuality is just the scape goat they use to do this. If it were not my sexuality it would be my skin color, my height, my ethnic background or some other thing they could use to cast me as the "other".

I often wonder if my being Gay has had any negative effects on my career or my friends. I wonder if this blog has caused me to lose work and clients. I have certainly noticed that things have changed and that my relationships have changed with some of the people that I used to know. Though nobody has ever said it to my face it would not surprise me if it were a factor.

I live my life quite out in the open. This blog is proof of that. Although I write from the perspective of a Gay man, my sexuality is only a very small part of who I am. I have strived to make this clear many times on the blog.

I can understand how a young person thinking about coming out and struggling with their sexuality might look at the way the Gay community is still treated, and think that coming out and living a life true to your authentic self might simply be too difficult. There is a lot of pressure on Gay men to look and act a certain way even from within our own community. There is a lot of pressure on our relationships to fail both from our own community and from outside sources, who would prefer to look on us as less than equal. We are told we cant be parents, that we can't love, that we can't have children, that we can't be soldiers, and that we are sick.

I will admit that the recent spate of marriages amongst my family and friends has left me slightly jaded. As philosophical as I try to be it is hard not to be a little bit annoyed sitting there watching my friends and family tying the knot without even giving a second thought (casually, but not deliberately) to those amongst them who are unable to share the same recognition. It is hard to sit there and know you are a second class citizen.

But amongst all of this garbage floating around in the popular media sewer and redneck cultural memes, there is a very real human intuition amongst us that we are what we are. Deep down inside each of us there is a tiny spark that says I am what I am, and I am entitled to live and love how I want. We were born free and we will die free. It is when we deny this intuition that we cause conflict within ourselves.

So sure being Gay is difficult but so is living in the closet. So is hiding who you are. So is living a life as a shadow of all you could be. If life is going to be difficult then why not make it amazing and difficult. Why not make it liberating and difficult. Why not make it fun and difficult. Funny thing is that when you do this... the difficult no longer seems sooooo... difficult.

Gay 101. Frigid? by whose standards?

Gay 101. Frigid? by whose standards?



If you have a very low sex drive and am extremely frigid? This has lead to some awkward situations and makes it difficult to make friends.

Frigid by who's standards?

The crazy thing about the Gay community and the wider community in general is that we place so much emphasis on sex. Having it, getting it, bragging about it, and taking pictures of it.

Sex has become the chaser that we take with our Vodka lemon and lime. A Gay night club resembles a Meerkat Gang with Gays straining their necks as they seek out potential partners. You can almost see the terminator cross hairs moving across the crowd.

There is nothing wrong with holding out when it comes to sex.

If not wanting to have sex is effecting your ability to make friends then I would question whether or not you want to be friends with these people anyway. While friends do sometimes have sex, friendships based on sex are doomed to failure.

Do you really want to have friends who only stick around because they want to sleep with you?

So not feeling sexual results in awkward situations... Well there are are going to be plenty of people in your life that you are not going to want to have sex with. Don't feel bad for saying no. It's your body.

There is so much Sex going on around us and so much pressure to have sex that when we don't want it or we are not having it, it is easy to think that there is something wrong.

Why am I so frigid?
Why don't I enjoy sex?
What's wrong with me?
Am I missing out?

The truth is that sex is a personal choice. Don't measure yourself by the sluttiness of the people around you. Holding out for someone special isn't being frigit, and neither is waiting because you are unsure about sex.

Sex is to be enjoyed in your own time and on your own terms. Don't feel bad or apologize for this.

And above all when you do play... Play safe :)

Why do i try to make myself think im straight?

Why do i try to make myself think im straight? is it because im afraid of how people in society will view me?

I can't answer this for you. I can tell you though that you are not the only one who thinks this way. The confusion is part of the process of figuring yourself out. It's not pleasant, but it is natural. Ask yourself why it's important that people think you are straight and I think you will find your answer.

It's natural to be worried about how people will think about you because we still live in a world of small minded bigoted people.

It's natural to fear losing friends and family.

But what's more important, living your own life or living in fear of what strangers think of you?

You sexuality is something that you will figure out over time. It's an intensely personal thing. You could be Gay, straight, bi or whatever. It actually doesn't matter what you are as long as you are happy.

It's easy for me to say sitting at my comfortable desk, but I know what it's like to question who you are. It's a process that for some of us take many years whilst others just know. It's complicated and it's frightening,

but...

you are not alone and you will learn that there is a whole world out there that embraces diversity and individuality.

The community is diverse and you can be anything you want to be. GLTBI people are soldiers, doctors, lifesavers, home makers, actors, business people, fathers, mothers, carers, Olympians and every other kind of person in between.

Who you choose to sleep with is only a tiny part of who you are. Don't let that tiny part stop you from living a life that is extraordinary.

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My fav dessert.



Choc eclair with chocolate mouse with real choc... Awww...

The sea...


What a beautiful sight...

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